Saturday, May 18, 2013

Thirty Days of Truth: Day 9

 Day 09. Someone you didn’t want to let go of.

My niece and nephew. It's a long story and most of it is not mine to share, but the basic information is a matter of public record. I lost contact with them about 10 years ago after my brother in law was convicted of sexually abusing his daughter. He is serving a life sentence (thank you Lord). After his abuse came to light her mother's family pressured her to cut contact with us even though we completely believed and supported her. I fought it for a while, calling weekly and sending cards and gifts at holidays and birthdays. Eventually I had to give up though. You can only beat your head against the wall for so long.

I miss those kids. Well, they aren't really kids anymore. She is 21 years old now and he is 19. I haven't been able to keep track of him, but I have found her online. Unfortunately the news is not good. What I found were arrest records. From what I have been able to gather she must be involved in drug use. I find this incredibly sad, her mother died in 2004 from a drug overdose (suicide if you believe the stories, but I lean more to an accidental overdose). After her mother's death she and her brother were adopted by her maternal aunt and uncle. I had hoped and prayed that they would be safe and protected, that they would both get the guidance and therapy they would both need to overcome everything that happened in their lives. I don't know if that was provided for them, but it certainly seems that she is still struggling.

I pray for them both, I wish I could reconnect with them. But that is out of my hands. I just have to trust that if I can help them that God will direct me back into their lives.

I love you Kara and Sean. Now and always. 

If I had the chance, this is what I would tell them both.


6 comments:

  1. Such a sad story. I will say a prayer for them and for you.

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  2. I couldn't find a spot to write an email to you. Just know it is a great thing your BIL got the time he did. I know someone who got ONE MONTH for destroying a young girls life. Her uncle! She had lots of issues over the years and many near misses, but thankfully she is on the road to recovery and even graduating this month. Keep your faith and pray and there is always hope. Hugs to you!

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    1. Winnie, you can email me at anytime at poohcorner215@gmail.com

      I know we are very blessed that he got the time he did. The jury gave him the max sentence. Technically he will be eligible for parole in 2033. By then he will be in his 60's. It is honestly my prayer that he will never make parole, but even if he does I know that he did get a much longer sentence than a lot of pedophiles get.

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  3. I am so sorry to hear how things are going for your niece. I'll pray for her...and Sean. Just be assured and remember that God's arms are far longer than yours. When she stops running and turns to look for Him, she'll find Him right there waiting with open arms.

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    1. I believe that with my whole heart! Thank you for adding them to your prayers.

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