Monday, February 10, 2014

paying a call


Do you like "drop in" guests? This question has been on my mind for a few days now. My answer is a resounding "NO". I don't. I love my friends and family, but I want and need my private space. And, truth be told, I don't like the way people react to my overcrowded fur covered furniture. Most people who know me well have long ago figured this out and do not try to drop by. But I have this one friend who just doesn't seem to get it. We have been friends for years and years and yet she persists on trying to stop by with little or no notice. I find this frustrating and perplexing. Is there something wrong with me? Is it so strange that I don't want company? I don't mind talking on the phone or exchanging texts, emails, or Facebook messages, but I really don't want anyone physically in my space. Does that seem odd?

At least my husband gets me! :)



  1. I feel the same was as you, I like notice before people drop in. I am sometimes up to my armpits in paint or ink and someone pops in for a chat. ugh. I also love quiet time as I am on a swtichboard with tons of meeting and greeting all day, so I like to unplug and just sit quietly. It is hard for some to "get" that.

  2. I totally get this. I'm not even necessarily opposed to last minute plans - a phone call or text: "Hey, I'm in your neighborhood, can I stop by?" kind of thing. But the sudden knock at the door? No. I am invariably in my underwear or the house is a disaster or I'm in the middle of something I don't want to stop doing. I don't know. Maybe we're both weird?! ;)

    1. Well, if I gotta be weird, at least I know I am in good company! :)

  3. I don't care for drop-in visits, except in rare cases. If it's an emergency, and calling is too hard, then yes, absolutely, get yourself to my doorstep! That's happened less than a handful of times, though. When people drop in without letting me know first, I feel like they don't value my time at all. I also feel like maybe they got bored and are only seeing me because of that. It tends to be people who really have a hard time with boundaries, which also bothers me. Honestly, I've gotten where I just don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone. I figure it's no more rude than someone who can't be bothered to call first, when I've asked them to. (Back to boundary issues.)


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